Not My Problem

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This creates animosity between team members and creates hostile work environments. You’re showing unwillingness. It breeds contempt and reinforces the belief that you are not a team player and can’t be depended on.

It’s most effective when you are leaving and do not want to associate yourself with petty drama. Generally, it’s best if you can refer them to “someone else” directly (like a mediator). ciara smyth does something in her books which i’ve found is quite rare, and it is that she makes them truly, genuinely funny. not even just a ‘i let out a huff of air to show that i appreciated that sentence,’ but real laughter. i read this book when i was sad, and it was the perfect reprieve from the world: even as the main character, aideen’s, world is falling apart, she manages to be absolutely hilarious throughout. like The Falling in Love Montage this was also funny af and had me laughing out loud several times. there was also humour and levity in serious situations but it also managed to stay serious when the situation called for it. And even the pushing-down-the-stairs-thing, I was really excited for (I'm mean, I know), turned out pretty tame, but I liked it that way. Also, the girl who gets pushed becomes the love interest lauter on, which is so fun.It’s a scenario where “not my problem” can be helpful when served with a side of compassion and caring. You can still be a compassionate listener without taking on a problem as your own. I don’t understand why you are both fighting about this, though. So, I don’t want to get involved any more than I have to. the family related subplot was once again just... very sad. YA contemporary romance really doesn't shy away from the harshness of reality, there's always a very deep and meaningful discussion to be had about problems that actually concern many people. it makes me appreciate YA contemporaries a lot, i realised. Adult romance is often just... - well. Also, Ms Devlin!! Her dry humour and the way she interacted with Aideen was really wholesome to me. She really reminded me of Sister Michael from Derry Girls, except maybe slightly younger and also not a nun? Either way, one of my fave YA teachers.

The new friend Kavi on the other hand was exactly the sweet and kind friend Aideen needed. I loved him. He was hilarious. I came into this book with very high expectations because I loved Smyth's debut novel so so much. Somehow, this exceeded my expectations. Everything was just perfect. I’d really love to write a proper dark comedy, though I think it’s a difficult tone to get right and possibly isn’t particularly in fashion in YA right now. I think I’d like to write a kind of speculative contemporary novel as well, think The Good Place as YA or a comedy version of They Both Die at the End. Unlike The Falling in Love Montage, this is more of a coming of age story than a romance. There is a cute, sort of enemies to lovers romance, but it’s not the main focus. However, I thought the amount of romance worked perfectly with the book. With everything else going on for our main character, the amount of romance was a good fit and I thought the couple was adorable too.You should resolve it amongst yourselves” shows you don’t want to involve yourself in someone’s problem.

The newly formed friendship between Ravi, Meabh, and Aideen was amazing, I learned so many cute lessons from them! Ravi was an icon, I liked his talkative, energetic, and supportive characteristics. I adored Meabh as well, she was compassionate and a bit relatable. When you receive a request it can become a responsibility, and that responsibility needs to be embraced, accepted and met. Some might even try to exceed it. Not to say, all the side characters are equally delightful. I love Meabh and her persona, Kavi for being the best best friend someone could ask for, the P.E teacher and even Holly, who is not much likeable. However, I valued all these flaws in the characters, showing us how timelessly human they are. We also see the fmc be an absolute doormat when it comes to her best friend, but we have to assume that she's victim to it because the fmc is just 'too nice' and assumes the best of everyone 🥺🙄. Although the plot was a bit crazy, I mean doing people favors and getting favors in return is one thing, pushing someone down the stairs is another, it wasn't too ridiculous, and I'm so thankful for that.When I was younger I would say, “ it’s not my problem” to my little sister. All the time. I believed that the things that she needed to take care of were her problems. And the things that I needed to take care of were my problem.